Many people have a problem with the whole Leather/BDSM/Fetish thing. Some seem to not like it because it is “not normal”, and others love it cause of that. There are what we call the Hard Core ones, “Weekend Warrior’s”, and some are now calling the non-BDSM crowd, Muggles (yes after the Harry Potter writer coined it for normal humans with no magic ability).
The Hard Core ones, are the ones that can do it 24/7 and not get tired of it. Sometimes it’s a Dominatrix for higher, or a Master/Slave type thing, that the couple at home may end up going from shirt and tie from work, and coming home putting on leather/rubber/etc, and getting into the “role” of it. These are most times the Title holders for the leather bars, and such that continue to do things for the community they are in, be it the gay or straight.
Weekend Warriors, these are the ones that either are fun to play with on the weekend, or scare them half to death (from a Hard Core point of view). They are usually the ones, that wear leather or rubber just because it looks or feels “kool”. They don’t really get into any of the school yard activities such as whipping, bondage, pupplay, etc. They just walk around and think they belong.
Muggles, well, lets just say, seeing a cow on the side of the road makes them a bit nervous. And nothing but “vanilla” sex (without playing with leather/rubber etc), is all they do.
And before you ask, yes, I am Hard Core.
Now, the bad part of this life is the fact that most people will either shun you or look at you sideways cause of it. This is why most stay behind the closet door, and not let people know what is going on. Straight people have it easier due to they only having one door to open. Gay’s on the other hand have 2 or more to open. My case 3, one for being Gay, one for being part of the Leather community, and one for being a pup. Yes, even the gay community you have those Muggles, that look at you strange. There are more Weekend Warriors in the gay side, due to the Gym Rats liking the way they look in a leather vest.
Take the case of a friend of mine (whos linked in my Blogroll), he and I have known each other for nearly 7 years and he just came out to me about being a sub (submissive). And he did not have to come out about being straight, I already knew that. He already knew I was gay, but I told him I was sub and a Dom, he was nearly floored. I told him, “what, the leather and the fact about me going to IML did not give it away?” But, I mean even being friends for that long, it still took him a while to tell me this. Read his blog, he just rediscovering himself with the help of his wife. Along with his wife learning the Domme role of things.
Doors, all need to be opened at sometime or another. Be kind when someone tells you that they like to be tied up and spanked for fun. It’s just another part of this little divers world. As they say, it takes all kinds.
I was floored. I had a hunch that you were somewhat non-vanilla (which is why I chose you for my first confession), but had no idea that you were Hard Core and a Dom to boot.
This door was a hard one to open in myself and I’m happy to have a friend “in the know” that I can turn to for advice and counsel. You’re so right that it takes all kinds!